My husband today asked if he was mentioned in this blog. When I looked, I realized that I really didn't talk about him and I probably should.
My husband is handsome, kind, well-spoken, funny, great with the kids, is highly intelligent and respected in his field. He single-handedly went to China to bring Child #2 back, enduring a very cranky baby who was probably in shock from being handed over to a stranger and brought to an alien country. DH is also expects as much from others as he does from himself (which is quite a bit). This makes him, in my eyes, super critical. For the last 16 years I've had a problem with that.
When he decided that I didn't clean the house up to his standards, he inherited much of the cleaning responsibility. When he "fired" me from doing his laundry, he took it upon himself. Often I feel he resents me for not doing things right in the first place, but my attitude is: Life is too short to worry about the small stuff (cleaning, laundry). I'd rather focus on enjoying my children while they're little. There will be time to be clean later.