|Teens are like fireworks - ready to explode!|
Recently, a friend on Facebook was lamenting about how difficult the teenage years are for parents and how, in stark contrast to the number of women blogging about their kids' younger years, there aren't that many of us blogging about the teens. I often mention Junior, who is 13, but I understand why there aren't more of us writing covering this time of life; there are multiple reasons, including, but not limited to:
- We're busy because kids at this age are busy. I'm driving Junior to friends' houses, activities, etc.
- In addition to our teen, we often have other kids, and
keeping the family in check is hard. Schedules are, once again,
hectic and trying to keep track of who is where is a challenge.
- The potential to wound your kids psychologically is enormous,
never more so than when they're teens. This embarrassment factor,
which can be fun and powerful, can also be damaging to parent-teen
relationships. As parents, we realize that our time with these
changlings is extremely limited and I, for one, don't want to mess
that up by ticking Junior off too badly.
- They're volatile and bat-shit crazy at this age. Their
hormones are racing around, their bodies are topsy-turvy, their
relationships are confusing and there's a lot of pressure at school. Basically, they're tornadoes with
legs. Who wants to unnecessarily be on the wrong end of that?
- What goes on the Web, even if it's taken down, stays on the
Web. I, for one, don't want to say the wrong thing which can
somehow become a permanent part of Junior's digital footprint.
- Kids change less quickly during the teenage years than when they were
toddlers. The changes are ultimately larger, but they can also be
more subtle and less observable when you're with the kids on a daily basis.
- Parents of these kids may be in denial. I don't want to
think about Junior growing up and moving away and if I don't write
about it, then I don't have to face it...until it becomes absolutely necessary.
- Many people re-enter the workforce (as I'm trying to do)
when their kids become teens and just don't have the time.
No, there aren't as many moms writing about teens, so listen to those of us who do (and remember that in addition to the blog you're reading right now, I write another one: http://isithotinheremmm.blogspot.com). Even if your kid is little, your time is coming. Learn from those us in the midst right now. And bring cookies.